I was at the bank the other day with my homie Jeremy, and as we were waiting for an available accountant so he could open a savings account, two people stood out to me that got me learning. One person was really impatient, and the other was an adult in her late 20’s to early 30’s that seemed to have a had a hard time growing up.
The impatient person was an eye opener of how miserable impatience is. She kept cussing and complaining of how ridiculous it was that she wasn’t getting helped fast enough, and she had a condescending attitude that all the employees at the bank were a bunch of idiots. moral of the story: being in a rush is miserable, nothing can ever happen fast enough and everybody is always in the way. Think of how better the world would be if people weren’t in such a rush all the time; there would be a lot less car accidents for sure, theft and murder would be lower, while kindness and compassion would be much higher. People choose not to be compassionate mostly because they don’t have time to be, they got somewhere to be. This reminds me of a song by Cultural Roots that goes, “We hustle and we bustle to catch the train, meanwhile millions of lives are going down the drain.” Impatience makes us virtually unable to feel for other people. And as Americans, we tend to either add too much to our “to do list,” or we live in an illusion that we are busier then we really are. Life is much better when we are not in a hurry, and it’s not as hard as we tend to think it is to not be in a rush. It’s silly to feel like we have to be in a car or in a lobby for the shortest amount of time possible. If we can learn to find some enjoyment in driving, or sitting in a lobby our lives wouldn’t be as miserable. The higher our patience gets, the more we will enjoy life. Life consists of a lot of waiting, so we might as well learn to find some enjoyment in it. We can enjoy the process instead of always anxiously awaiting the result.
The second person was a grown woman who was playing a game on her iphone with the sound on pretty loud; talking to the game and saying things like, “die zombies” and, “I need more ammo.” She was talking to the game like everyone in the wait room was playing with her or wanted to know how good she was doing. Moral of the story: a lot of people (sadly) are in a hurry to get to a certain place in life when their really young, and once they get there they do all that they can to stay there and keep themselves from getting older, externally and internally. Plastic surgery and face lifts are a reflection of this, also sitting in a wait room killing zombies on your iphone with the sound all the way up when you’re 30. This is also a good example of the pursuit of vanity. Men and women both have their distinct ways of pursuing vanity, for men it usually refers to accumulating material things, like once they get a lot of wealth with a big house they have to do all they can to maintain and to increase that status and wealth; but for women it’s usually more according to the increase and maintenance of their appearance. Men tend to feel like they need wealth and material things to attract the female, women tend to feel like they need to look as pretty as possible to attract the male. Although men can get caught up in physical appearance and women in accumulating wealth and status, it’s usually not as dominant as the common tendency I referred to earlier.
Impatience is a miserable life, refusal to grow up is a vain life and a denial of reality that time moves. Exercising maturity and accumulating wisdom is vital for a good and healthy life. Immaturity although is easier then maturity because we are naturally immature, maturity takes work and practice. But just like working out, practicing your 3-pointers or your kickflips, once we see results the process is completely worth it. Observation is a good way to increase in learning and wisdom, we don’t always have to read a book to be wiser. Proverbs talks of wisdom as crying out in the marketplace, and whoever finds it, finds life and obtains favor from the LORD (8:1-3, 35). Sometimes all we have to do is slow down, take a look around, and learn from what’s going on around us. Wisdom is not that hard to find, if we can learn to slow down and observe and critique, we will find that wisdom will start to feel like it’s finding us. For emphasis, remember the proverb I paraphrased earlier of wisdom crying out in the marketplace. If wisdom is of our greatest pursuits, than our lives will be forever enriched. “Blessed is the one finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding, for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold. She is more precious than jewels, and nothing you desire can compare with her” (Proverbs 3:13-15)